Sticks and Stones...
Unless you’ve been
living on another planet you would no doubt have heard about, or watched
“The Voice;” a phenomenon that has taken Australia
by storm and has left its competitors floundering in its wake. The
first thing that struck me when I watched The Voice was not the
incredibly talented singers, but the words spoken by the judges; words
of encouragement, affirmation, support and honesty; words intended to
build up, not to tear down; constructive criticism meant to lift someone
in order to bring out their best. I’ve heard many people remark that
they are tired of hearing people being put down, ridiculed and mocked,
all in the name of entertainment, and I suspect this is one reason for
the shows success.
Anyway,
it got me thinking, have you ever noticed that you can remember what
someone has said, long after you’ve forgotten something they’ve done?
Words are powerful,
and yet often we can release them into the atmosphere with little
thought and even less care. How easy it is in the heat of an argument to
pull out a sharp word and plunge it into someone else’s soul; how
tempting to pass on a juicy bit of gossip rather than forget you ever
heard it.
How many of us have been a victim of ill-chosen, careless words?
How many still
smart from hurtful words spoken by a teacher or a parent? The old saying
“sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me,”
is rubbish; names hurt. Many years ago I encountered a young woman who
was the victim of verbal abuse; she told me there were times when she
wished her husband would just hit her, because physical pain was
something she could tolerate.
Whilst opinions vary research has shown that we speak around 16,000 words per day.
That’s a lot of
words and a lot of responsibility. I have to ask myself, how will I use
my words? How are you going to use your words? Will you use them to
build someone up or tear someone down? Will you use them to encourage
people to reach their goals or will you use them to snatch away their
dreams? The bible tells us that the power of life and death is in the
words that we speak; now there’s a daunting thought. So this week as you
journey through life be conscious of the power of your words; choose
them wisely and use them wisely.
Kind words heal and help; cutting words wound and maim. Proverbs 15:4 (The Message)